Yesterday I watched a film that changed my life. A film that made me sob, scream, and yell. A film that left me feeling sad, scared, disgusted, confused and enraged! A film that empowered me to write.
On December 16, 2012 Jyoti Singh, a 23 year old medical student in Delhi, went to a movie with a male friend. Jyoti had just finished college exams and was excited that her struggles and hard work had paid off. Her parents were very poor and they sold their ancestral lands to send her to school to become a doctor. She worked nights at a call center and spend every waking hour working to become a doctor. Her dream was to establish a hospital in her village where no medical treatment was available. Her parents encouraged her to follow her dreams. They saw the potential in their daughter. When millions across India viewed daughters as a wasted investment, Jyoti’s parents spent everything they had to help their daughter succeed.
Jyoti and her friend went and saw Life of Pi. When the movie was over they boarded a bus to return home. That joyous occasion was soon transformed into a living nightmare. On the bus the male companion was beaten with an iron bar. Joyti was dragged to the back of the bus where she was brutally gang raped, mutilated and disemboweled while the bus traveling around the city. Six men ( I hate to use the word man because they are not human ) took turns raping Jyoti. The youngest of the group a 17 year old boy used the iron bar to brutalize her internally. When they were done with her they threw the two young people from the bus and left them to die on the streets of Delhi. Doctors did everything they could to save her, but her injuries were so gruesome and her body could not recover. 90% of her intestines had to be removed because of the damage that was inflicted. She passed away fourteen days after the attack.
India’s Daughter is a documentary about these horrible events. It is also a beautiful film about a beautiful soul that was taken too early and killed in such a horrible way. The documentary has touching interviews from Jyoti’s parents and friends. There are also chilling interviews of the murders telling their story with no remorse. Footage of the protests that resulted in India and the beatings from the police and military. There were also interviews from the attorneys representing the murders.
I beg my readers please take the time to watch this documentary and to share it. I will not lie to you, it is not easy to watch. You will cry! You will feel sick! and you will feel enraged!! I am writing this blog because this story needs to be told. I am writing this blog because the dangers are very real! I am writing this blog because it is NEVER the victims fault!!!!! I am writing this blog because I demand change!!
Watching this film changed my life. It had filled me with a passion to share this story.
I am outraged and disgusted with how these men brutalized this poor women! I am taken aback by the fact that they have no remorse. The documentary interviewed Mukesh Singh from prison. Mr Singh he was the driver of the bus and who also participated in the rape and murder of Jyoti. These are some of the comments he had to make about his actions!
“A decent girl won’t roam around at nine o’clock at night. A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy,” Housework and housekeeping is for girls, not roaming in discos and bars at night doing wrong things, wearing wrong clothes. About 20% of girls are good. When being raped, she shouldn’t fight back. She should just be silent and allow the rape. Then they’d have dropped her off after ‘doing her’, and only hit the boy,” he said. “The death penalty will make things even more dangerous for girls. Now when they rape, they won’t leave the girl like we did. They will kill her. Before, they would rape and say, ‘Leave her, she won’t tell anyone.’ Now when they rape, especially the criminal types, they will just kill the girl. Death.”
Honestly I am most disgusted by the attorneys in the case!!! Who openly argued that it was the was Jyotis fault for being out at night, and that it is the women responsibility to keep from being raped. Watching these men talk and defend their clients right to “punish” Jyoti filled me with RAGE. I screamed at the laptop! How could he blame the victim! How could he treat women with such little respect!!! How could he be proud of his views!!! These were educated men! Lawyers! Yet these men saw women as less than animals. Listening to these men talk filled me with such anger that I felt like vomiting!
“You are talking about man and woman as friends. Sorry, that doesn’t have any place in our society. We have the best culture. In our culture, there is no place for a woman.
“A female is just like a flower. It gives good looking…very softness performance, pleasant. But on the other hand, a man is like a thorn. Strong, tough enough. The flower always need protection. If you put that flower in a gutter, it is spoilt. If you put that flower in a temple, it will be worshiped.
The other lawyer, AP Singh, had said in a previous televised interview:
“If my daughter or sister engaged in pre-marital activities and disgraced herself and allowed herself to lose face and character by doing such things, I would most certainly take this sort of sister or daughter to my farmhouse, and in front of my entire family, I would put petrol on her and set her alight.”
There is a petition to take action against bow lawyers ML Sharma and AP Singh, I urge you to take a moment to click on the link Petition against the Attorneys.
It is time for a change!
The documentary forced me to see how women are viewed in much of India. In many Indian homes girls are seen as less than boys. Girls are seen a curse, a burden. They are used for child bearing, cooking, and cleaning! They are seen as submissive and obedient. These men that raped and murdered Jyoti did not see her even as a human being! She was treated worse than an animal. I dare say that if a cow was being beaten as Jyoti was , these same rapists would have stopped the attacker of the cow.
Women and girls have value!! Jyoti parents saw their daughter’s value!
India’s government has BANNED this documentary, afraid of the reaction of the people! This is an injustice to women and Jyoti! This further shows India’s lack of commitment to women’s rights and equality!
Imagine if this was your sister, your daughter, your niece, your friend! Imagine the pain she went through! Imagine the pain of her family! It is time to stand up. To speak out! To lay blame where is belongs, with the attacker! To end child brides, To educate girls! To teach boys that it is not their ” right” to possess women! Lets make Jyoti death mean progress!